The pronouns I use in my composing career are now “She/Her”
Although my gender identity is an important part of my life, it takes a back seat when I am collaborating with music ensembles. My focus is on the music and the fantastic experience the music provides the singers and the audience.
However, at home and in my local community, I still use the pronouns I have had my entire life, and they are “he” and “him”. My transition – as all transitions – is a journey, with no clear cut rules. Even as I continue my journey, I have the privilege to embrace my past, a past which has brought me to where I am today.
With that said, I must share a few additional thoughts.
I am not in any way offended if a person mistakenly uses any pronoun.
Also, I am very comfortable, if the discussion about gender identity is part of the workshop or the commission, discussing my story.